I’ve met my bestfriend in my primary school today (ZK) at our bestfriend wedding where I am the maid-of-honor. ..things went ok until ZK commented on the other bridemaids about their make up and hair done. She commented on how did they go to pray with those heavy make up and hair done with those baju kebaya chongsam which is very ‘complicated’ to be take off for afternoon prayer and let alone the rest of the day prayer..

Me as usual, will try to provoke this one kind of my beloved friend by saying “well, maybe the put it on’ hold’..”. ZK was so shock and says:

ZK: “ My Goodness!!! They cant do that, u cant skip the prayer like that. You have to perform it no matter what!”

well, now she has started to give me a lecture on prayer. So I said to her :

ZZ: “gal, those ppl maybe has perform their prayer n we didn’t know it.. or maybe they some kind put it on ‘hold’..we cant judge them, just leave it to the God above.. He knows better than us.”

(thou I know maybe they ‘did put on hold’ their zuhur prayer but I cant denied the possibility they did remove their make up, and go to pray then put the make up again..)

Then we change to some other topics and unfortunately, she asked me about our friend ‘L’. I said to her that I do contact with her but just through the FS…to my concern, L is my friend so long she doesn’t back-stabbing our friendship. But suddenly, Z , came out with this statement:

ZK: eyy, did u know that L is no longer wearing her tudung?

ZZ: err, I don’t know, myb yes but in her FS she still wear it. It’s up to the individual thou

ZK: owh, I thought u knew it already..

ZZ: honestly, it’s her right. We just could pray for her but not to judge her..

ZK: but what makes her to change drastically? She did wore it since school..

ZZ: gal, it just her appearance, but L is still L..maybe she wanted to be different, we don’t know about it. yes, it is sinful but she has the right to be wrong only then she’ll learn her lesson. I know a lot of tudung gal who did wore skin-color legging and wearing it with skirt or wearing a skin-tight shirt and on the same time did ‘mingle’ around with guys. Unfortunately, instead of judging them as a ‘not-so-good-muslim-gal’, people would judge her soooo good just because she’s wearing tudung. Did u get it? L is not longer wearing her tudung but have u ever heard or seeing her ‘mingling’ around with guys will free? Have u ever see her went to any of his guys friends house? Have u ever heard she letting any of her boyfriend to even hold her hand? Never right? It’s because her pride, her dignity, she keep it in her heart and her mind..not in her ‘expensive-glittery-flowery’ tudung.

God! What had happen to this friend of mine. I haven’t met her for about 4 years and she did changed a lot.. im happy for her change but I’m kindda uncomfortable the way she make out the statement…n God knows who will be the next..maybe it will be me n I don’t know what kind of statement it would be. what I mean is, I cant just abruptly think that someone has done something wrong based on what they had done before asking what really happened.

The provocative comment didn’t stop there, it continued when SH are now bersanding there wearing her wedding gown with that bare up the upper chest and her upper back and did ‘conceal’ it with a layer of thin ‘sheer-bronzy-shimmer’ to make it more tanned. She looked so pretty with that wedding gown and ZK again make out a statement which I reply :

ZZ: my dear, SH is someone’s wife now, I bet her husband know how to handle her and I strongly believed that that is the first and the last time of her to wear that kind of gown for the rest of her life...It’s her most enchanted-happiest day of her life and we should pray for her happiness after this..

But after all, ZK,L, SH are my friend and the fact that they have changed to someone that I wish they will never be would not changed the fact that I still love and regard them as my friends..Hey, friends are diamond..they forever valuable.. =)